When the Philistines saw Goliath, they saw a big scary monster and ran away. When David saw Goliath, he saw a target to big to miss and asked for a stone.
Many kids, especially kids with learning challenges, become anxious and worry about everything way to early in life. Criticism and bullying are all to often a part of their day. Let’s admit it; special needs kids come with lots of things for parents to worry about. They have lots of “weaknesses” continually identified. As they get older, they learn they are different and can become overly anxious, fearful of not measuring up, and generally overwhelmed with all that life tosses at them. These “Goliaths” get in the way of their ability to succeed.
Children can learn to look on the bright side, become more positive and worry less when taught how to react to the “Goliaths” in life . This takes practice and positive role models. Raising positive thinkers takes a village of positive teachers to let them know they are great kids, they can learn and life can be fun.
One strategy is to teach kids to focus on what they want versus worry about what will happen when things go wrong. An example, “I hate it when my teacher gives me math homework, I’ll never get it done” versus “When I get my homework done quickly, I get better grades, and my mom takes me out for chocolate”
A second. As parents, we need to keep in mind that we are our children’s role model and primary teachers. If we are continuously worried and anxious, our children are likely to be the same. Kids are very aware and when their parents are worried, they worry. This brings extra stress into their lives and prevents them from feeling secure. Good and bad things happen to all people, we have to show our kids to look on the bright side by being positive with our actions and words. We also need to teach them everyone makes mistakes. We need to teach our kids that mistakes happen and that’s ok.
Finally, do not forget to build on your child’s strength. Your child’s strength are the path to their jobs and social interactions as adults. Take a break from all the therapies and tutoring and just have fun. Do things just because they want to, no learning required.
Next time someone puts a “Goliath” in your path, are you going to get your sneakers or ask for a stone. Your child is watching.